If you fracture your hand, you will experience pain. This is your body’s way of telling you that something is wrong. It’s trying to draw your attention to the problem. Most people get caught up with the pain itself. We so desperately want relief that we put all of our effort into trying to make the pain go away, but we forget that the pain is only a messenger. You end up taking medication that will help you to cope, but you do not address the root cause of the pain. We usually say to ourselves, “Nah it’s not such a big deal. It will go away by itself.” You then numb the pain and keep using your hand throughout your day. Not only will this prevent your hand from healing, but the pain will not go away and it might even intensify, because you are aggravating the issue. This will cause suffering, you have to actively work on healing your hand, by doing rehabilitation and other things. Time in itself never heals pain, it’s the actions that we take within that time, that brings healing.

Your emotions work the same. Emotions are the body’s way of trying to direct your attention to issues within the non-physical part of your being. Emotions are merely messengers, they are trying to point you towards the actual problem. Many people focus on treating their emotional pain by taking medication like anti-depressants and anti-anxiety pills. The medication will only provide temporary relief, but the problem will persist. You are treating the symptom, not the cause. Our society is stuck in a never-ending cycle of treating symptoms. You have to learn how to become one with your emotions, no matter how afraid you are of them. When our emotions become overwhelming we just want relief, but the emotions are not your problem. Your problem is the issue that is generating these emotions, the emotions are simply trying to guide you towards this issue. You are literally shooting the messenger.

We numb ourselves from feeling these emotions because they hurt so much, but they are the key to your healing. Emotions are the map to your freedom. Without feeling them, you cannot trace them back to see what is creating these emotions. Use your emotions in order to fix the issue that is generating them in the first place. You have to be brave, we are afraid of dealing with the root cause, so we try to ignore and suppress it. This will only increase your suffering. The only way out of your pain is to go through it, the key to your healing lies within the pain itself.

​“Emotional pain is not something that should be hidden away and never spoken about. There is truth in your pain, there is growth in your pain, but only if it’s first brought out into the open.” – Steven Aitchison